8 Simple Ways to Be Kinder to Yourself

Posted by Leanna 13/11/2018 0 Comment(s)

Even if you feel that time is short and that you have very little of it left for yourself, there’s a lot of sense in the slightly overused phrase ‘you can’t pour from an empty cup’. Doesn’t it make sense that the more we nourish ourselves, the more positivity and love we have to share with others? I think so.  

And, I think that self care can be as simple as being a bit kinder to yourself. So let’s look at a few ways that you can practise self-kindness in your day - ideally every day if you can, but start where you are and build on it along the way...

Think Positively 
Even when times are challenging, positive thoughts can help us navigate those waters. If you’re working towards a goal and feel like you’re not making the progress that you had hoped for, then remind yourself of your daily efforts and speak kindly to yourself about the progress that you have made so far.

Look for the positive, it’s usually there and it always feels better than the alternative.  

Create Mindful Mornings  
What do your mornings look like? I truly believe that they set the tone for our entire day. But, too many of us start off by snoozing the alarm before reluctantly getting out of bed and then seeing where the day takes us. Even if you’ll never be a morning person, that’s ok, just try to do something kind for your mind body or spirit. It could be 5 minutes of meditation, a nourishing breakfast, your favourite yoga pose or simply pausing while you enjoy your morning tea.

If you start in a kind and positive way it’s so much easier to continue that feeling throughout your day.

Be Your Own Best Friend
Sometimes we have to be our own best friend; a comforting voice and cheerleader when we need it.  And, it’s pretty easy to do, just think of how you’d speak to a friend who was having a bad day or facing your current challenge. I don’t doubt that you’d be a lot nicer to them than you’re being to yourself.  Think of the gentle words and encouragement that you would offer and extend yourself the same kindness.

Schedule Time For Yourself 
It’s easy to make time for others when they need it but we rarely do the same for ourselves. It might feel strange at first but book a 10 minute slot in your diary for yourself. You don’t need a specific reason and at first you might have to resist the temptation to skip over it. But, 10 minutes gives you time to breathe, to pause for a moment and gather your thoughts before moving on.   

It gets easier with time and you may want to start adding several short pauses into every day.  

Slow Down
I used to think that slowing down would mean getting less done but I couldn’t have been more wrong! Letting go of never ending to do lists and multi-tasking is very freeing and once you’ve mastered the art of doing one thing at a time, you’ll never go back, I promise. Here are a few more tips on how to break the cycle of being busy, single tasking and slowing down. 

I love this one. Smile at others, smile when you look in the mirror and even smile when you’re sat on your own! It’s an instant physical reminder that there’s something positive in your life to be grateful for and it’s free.   

Forgive Yourself 
I’ll be honest, for some of us this can be a bit of a challenge. But, let’s start with those small mistakes that just reminder us that we’re human. The key is to keep a balanced perspective and it helps when you don’t let your inner critic blow everything way out of proportion. Again, speak kindly to yourself as if you would a friend or colleague, put right what you can and then let it go - do not ruminate over it all day! 

Give yourself Gifts
Some people call these treats but I prefer to think of them as gifts; a bunch of flowers, a new book, your favourite bath product or skincare. We shouldn’t only feel loved when someone else finds the time to show us how much they value us.  Of course, you can also give yourself the gift of time to do something that you love. Try making a list of kind gestures that lift your spirit and then you’ll have a variety of things that you can dip into for inspiration.

No matter how different our paths and where life takes us, positivity, self-care and kindness will always be help us to become our best selves and create lives that benefit the people and world around us.

How will you get started today?  



Co – Founder of holistic skincare brand, Pure Thoughts and advocate for women finding pause in their day to breathe deeply, give thanks and reconnect to what matters. Loves early mornings, dogs and books that you can’t put down.

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